Wedding Registry Do’s and Don’tsSeptember 29, 2014 by Jennifer Speer
- Do register ahead of time. You should probably register 4-6 months in advance. This will not only give your guests time to purchase gifts, but it also ensures your registries are complete before your friends and family begin hosting parties and showers in your honor.
- Don’t go overboard. Limit your registries to two or three stores. Department stores as well as small boutiques are acceptable, but make sure you have a mixture of both options for your guests.
- Do register as a couple. Your fiancé has an opinion too! Give them the option of attending without making them feel obligated to go.
- Don’t tell guests where you are registered on your save-the-date or invitation. This implies that you are expecting a gift. Tell your close friends, family, and wedding party where you have registered, and ask them to spread the word. However, it is acceptable to include this information on a wedding website.
- Do register for enough gifts. You should register for more items than there are guests invited. This ensures there are plenty of options for your guests to choose from. Make sure to register for gifts in a wide range of prices.
- Don’t ask for money. It is becoming more and more common for brides and grooms to ask their guests for financial support. However, this should not be listed on the invitation, and even when listed on your website, you should never ask for money directly. There are financial registries that will allow you to make your wishes known. For example, you may register for stocks via a website called GiftsofStocks.com, or ask for donations for your honeymoon through a travel agent or an online service such as TheHoneymoon.com. Some banks even have programs that allow you to set up a savings account to which your guests could make donations.
- Do review your registry. Check that duplicate items aren’t listed at two different stores. Check to make sure you’ve registered for an entire set of dishes or glassware. And keep up with your registry every few weeks to help you keep up with what you will be receiving and what you might still need. This will also give you fair warning if you need to register for more items!
- Don’t limit your registry. Think of your lifestyle in years to come. You will be entertaining and hosting more often in the future. You might have a family of your own. You will most likely own a larger home than the one you will be living in following your wedding. Prepare for what lies ahead.
- Do write thank-you notes right away. We recently blogged about this exact topic. Don’t let yourself get behind. It is much easier to write 3-4 notes a day than to write 200 over a weekend.
- Don’t worry if you do not receive every item on your registry. You will continue receiving gifts long after your actual wedding day, and many of the leftover items will make great Christmas and birthday gift ideas for your friends and family. On top of that, many stores offer a completion program which offers discounts on remaining items.
Any other words of advice for our brides-to-be as they plan their registries? Let us know on our Facebook page!